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Vietnam veteran saves two lives managing PTSD and sobriety

September 19, 2016Dog tales, Mental health

Vietnam veteran saves two lives to manage PTSD and sobriety

A Vietnam War Air Force veteran shares how her adopted Pomeranian dog has supported her in managing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and a new life of sobriety. 

The path less traveled

The year was 1974. Robin was an 18-year-old eager to experience something different from her quiet life, where she lived with her family just south of Boston. She grew up with four siblings, and her parents could not afford to send her to college. After seeing an ad for the Air Force she spoke with a recruiter and was encouraged to join.

Robin’s parents were weary of her decision to enlist, telling her that joining the Air Force was “not what women did.” Still, the teenager was resolute.  

“Women learned a different role,” she explains, deciding that her role would be different than the molds of her time. 

A girl forced to grow 

Robin’s early days in the service were especially difficult. While she was in basic training in Texas her father was dying of cancer in Massachusetts.

The young veteran traveled back and forth from training, and to her father’s deathbed until he passed— an experience that would eventually manifest into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a condition not limited to those in combat. In addition, during her time in service Robin fell victim to sexual assault.

It was not addressed much by the military at the time and, in her view, “remains a tragic problem.”

Vietnam veteran saves two lives to manage PTSD and sobriety

“[I] went from a little girl to a woman, and not understanding the logistics in between,” she recalls. 

Robin served in active duty for two years as an air passenger specialist at McGuire Air Force Base, where she boarded military families and personnel onto aircraft. She still remembers seeing off soldiers who were destined for Vietnam, describing the experience as “heart wrenching.”

Robin saw the end of the Vietnam War and felt an immense amount of guilt for being away from her grieving mother, so she applied to the Palace Chase Program in order to serve closer to home and transition to the Reserves. She would serve at Hanscom Air Force Base until she separated from service in 1980. 

Highs and lows

Life just after service brought many joys and two, in particular: her son and daughter.

Yet Robin’s life took an unexpected turn when her emotionally and physically abusive second marriage uncovered her PTSD. She turned to drinking to cope with the stresses of the abuse and the pain unearthed from her past. Although each person is different in how their PTSD expresses itself, substance abuse is common among those dealing with psychological trauma.

“I was losing the battle very quickly,” she says. 

Robin continued to abuse alcohol, moving from place to place, and from job to job, doing just enough to survive each day. Her self-destructive behavior gave way to depression and suicidal thoughts. 

“I didn’t want to die, but I did not want to live the way I was living,” she reflects. 

Peace with PTSD, sobriety and the past

The Air Force veteran went through multiple treatment programs and excelled, but was caught in a vicious cycle of relapse. This cycle would continue for years despite Robin’s desire to do better for herself and for her discouraged family. She was left wondering why she could not manage to stay healthy. 

In 2011 Robin was admitted to the Veterans Administration (VA) hospital after a relapse and, for the first time, found herself without a plan.

The VA sent Robin to Boston to live at a sober living place for military women, called TRUST House. During her eight months there Robin was able to connect with other women who had experiences similar to her own. Finally, she was able to be honest with herself and others. 

“I needed to let myself feel the pain that I never let myself go through,” she says, and through the support she received Robin made a realization. “I was not alone in this. I wasn’t crazy. I was not a bad person.”

Vietnam veteran saves two lives to manage PTSD and sobriety

Today, Robin proudly shares her sober date– August 28, 2011 – a date she now celebrates with her adopted dog Tucker. 

Robin wants others dealing with addiction, traumatic loss, PTSD, or any other personal struggle to understand that they are not alone and that “it’s never too late to change your life.” She welcomes contact from others who would like to talk about her experiences in the hopes that her story will help someone else. 

A house becomes a home when Robin embraces sobriety

After leaving TRUST House Robin was able to gain housing through HUD-VASH, a VA program that helps veterans go from homelessness to home. Before she signed her lease, however, she made sure that the agreement would allow her to have a dog. Having grown up with dogs, adopting one was something the Vietnam veteran wanted for her new life of sobriety. 

Robin applied to Pets for Patriots after hearing about the program though the Boston VA.

As soon as she was accepted, Robin took the train to Quincy Animal Shelter and instantly fell in love with Tucker, whom she remembers as “a little runt of a dog with dirty, filthy fur.” The once abandoned Pomeranian caught Robin’s attention with his bark. 

“I was doing the same thing,” she stresses, “I was barking, looking for help.”  

Though Robin could not take Tucker home the day she met him, she made sure to tell him not to leave with anyone else. He kept his promise and they have been inseparable ever since. 

The little things are the big things

Having recently celebrated her fifth year of sobriety Robin is in awe of her new life with Tucker.

Life is simple and fulfilling. One of their favorite activities is going out for ice cream together. He gets a little dish of vanilla, and the two of them sit on a bench to enjoy their treat and each other’s company. But for Robin every moment with Tucker is a treat – whether taking car rides, wandering through the woods, curling up on the couch, or giving him a bath.  

“There’s always some time of the day that’s special with him,” she says, “and I don’t always know what it’s going to be.”

When Robin reflects on what she loves most about Tucker she has a singular answer: “Everything.” The now eight year-old dog’s intuitiveness continues to impress her. 

“He knows when I don’t feel right and when to come sit with me,” she says, “and when to stay away.” 

Vietnam veteran saves two lives to manage PTSD and sobriety

Robin knows that she would be sober without Tucker, but the support he offers through the good times and the bad is unlike any other. Of his many gifts, she is most appreciative of his unconditional love and acceptance. 

“[Having] someone who knows you from now, as day one. Not from the addiction times,” is a blessing she did not expect to receive. 

Robin is now completely happy with her family back in her life, a home to call her own, a job at Wegmans, and a canine companion with whom to enjoy life. 

“We don’t have a lot,” she says, adding, “We don’t need a lot. We have our friends and we have our family and we have each other.”

All you need is love, sobriety…and some winter booties

The Air Force veteran becomes animated when discussing all of the ways Tucker has transformed her, and thanks Pets for Patriots for bringing the twelve-and-a-half pound ball of fluff into her life.  

“Knowing that other people are working to help is important.”  

In addition to having received a generous adoption fee discount, Robin has great praise for the quality, affordable care that Tucker receives at Quarry Hills Animal Hospital, where she knows she can call anytime. Since 2011, the practice extends a 15% discount to veterans in our program. 

And while she recognizes that pet guardianship is not for everyone, Robin believes that companion pet adoption is for anyone who feels that there is something missing from his or her life. 

Vietnam veteran saves two lives managing PTSD and sobriety

These days Robin and Tucker are not missing much, except for maybe a pair of extra small booties for Tucker. When it comes to snow booties for her pint-sized pup Robin has “tried them all,” but finds that they are too big for his tiny paws.

With all of the challenges Robin has overcome in life, this one pales in comparison.

For the first time in a long time, Robin feels optimistic thinking about the future. She has goals for herself and Tucker, including “living and being happy.”

While these words are simple on the surface they have immeasurable depth. Robin’s journey is one of impeccable fortitude, and now she has Tucker to share this journey. She describes their relationship in just six words: “We both know we are loved.”

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9 comments

  1. Michael D. Old Turtle says:
    September 21, 2016 at 2:41 am

    Great story for you, Robin and I’m so glad you found your little partner. I am also a Vietnam Veteran, having served there in 1972. I was in the Army from 1971 until 1976, being discharged for what I now know is a TBI. I’m also a recovered alcoholic with 23 years sobriety. I’ve been where you have been. My dogs have also been by my side through the years. Today I have a chocolate lab named Belle to share my life. Keep up the good work and maybe we’ll meet as we trudge this happy road of sobriety.

    1. bethz says:
      September 21, 2016 at 6:54 am

      Michael, thank you for your service and for sharing your journey – and congratulations on 23 years sober. Like Robin, you have much to be proud of and grateful for, and we’re honored to have you as part of our community!

  2. Harry Martin II says:
    September 20, 2016 at 4:27 pm

    Great article! I know my rescue Maltese helps me all the time with the PTSD anxiety, depression and loneliness

    1. bethz says:
      September 20, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      Thanks for sharing, Harry. So glad to hear that you have a special p up as well that helps make your life better.

  3. Frank Klafs says:
    September 20, 2016 at 11:07 am

    long live tucker

  4. Mary, Rocky's mom says:
    September 20, 2016 at 10:53 am

    Thank you for sharing your story, Robin! So glad you are blessed with Tucker to help you conquer the demons. I hope you have a long and happy time together in serenity!

  5. DG says:
    September 20, 2016 at 9:24 am

    Robin, thank you for your service. You are a strong person. So happy that you and Tucker are there for each other. There is nothing like the unconditional love & acceptance of a dog!

  6. Crystal Anderson says:
    September 19, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    Beautiful story with so so many similarities that I can truly relate to.
    Many hugs and kisses from Tucker to you are in store.
    Glad to know you two found each other and that you are doing much better.

    1. bethz says:
      September 20, 2016 at 5:24 pm

      Crystal, thanks for sharing. We knew that Robin’s story would touch a lot of people because so many can relate to her struggles.

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